Writing Wedding VowsWriting Wedding Vows

Alex Lasota & Winsome and Wright

Don't let nerves get the best of you when penning your own wedding vows - follow these guidelines and avoid writer's block!

These days, many brides are opting for originality when it comes to exchanging vows. Nervous about penning your own oath? Putting your feelings into words can be a tricky task. Don't let the pressure of composing the perfect speech give you writer's block, though. Your vows are a pledge, and two overarching themes are your declaration of love and promises for the future.

Consult your fiance and make sure he feels comfortable writing his vows, too. Have a talk about the basic framework of your vows (based on a traditional format or completely authentic) and decide on length. Some faiths expect you to recite a particular set of traditional vows, so make sure to check with your officiant or marriage celebrant beforehand.

Now, It's Time To Get Writing. Here Are Some Tips:


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1. Do some brainstorming. Think of how you met, your most memorable holidays, major events, and how your relationship has progressed. Write in a stream-of-consciousness style, letting the thoughts flow until you've exhausted all the details of your love and life together.

2. Read a book of poems or a classic love story for ideas. There are so many incredible classic love stories - from Shakespeare and Dickens to more contemporary authors like Nicole Krauss. Some children's stories are inspiring in their simplicity, like "The Velveteen Rabbit."

3. Include quotes from your favourite movie or book. If you come across a passage that really resonates with you, consider adding it to your vows. Be aware of length - you don't want too much of your vow to be someone else's words.

4. Don't procrastinate. Whatever you do, leave yourself plenty of time. There's nothing worse than the pressure of a looming deadline to hinder your creativity.

5. Rehearse, rehearse, rehearse. Read your vow aloud to give you an idea of pacing, rhythm and where you need a pause or full stop. Stuck halfway through? Speaking your vows can help shake other ideas loose.

6. Don't let the fact that you're not a writer stop you from expressing yourself. Remember, they are your feelings - you can voice them better than anyone else.

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