Wishing Stone Ceremony Wedding

Selina Rose

Romantic and memorable, a stone ceremony is an unconventional but sentimental way to involve your family and friends in your big day -

Finding fresh ways to involve your nearest and dearest in your wedding ceremony can be tough, but the idea of a Stone Ceremony is a simple solution - and a fantastic way to do something your friends and family will always remember.

Read on to get the lowdown on two distinct types: the Stone Ceremony; and the Oathing Stone Ceremony, to see whether one might work for you.

The Stone Ceremony

Wishing Stone Ceremony Wedding

Laura Munro

1. Before the wedding day, purchase polished stones or pebbles from Bunnings or a garden supplier and place them into a pretty pot or bowl together with a number of permanent markers (you'll soon see why)

2. As guests arrive, have a designated person hand each one a small polished stone or pebble

3. During the ceremony, ask your guests - and the bridal party - to hold their stone and make a loving wish for the couple's future life together

4. At the end of the ceremony, ask your guests to write their name and one word representing their wish onto the stone, such as: love, happiness, health, family, friendship, patience etc

5. Each stone represents a unique wish the couple can take with them during their marriage

6. Towards the end of the ceremony, perhaps during the Signing of the Register, arrange for a designated family member or one of the bridal party to collect the stones into a glass vase, creating an original memento - and a fabulous addition to any mantel, coffee table or bookshelf (just note that if yours is an especially large wedding you might want to go for a series of jars instead - one can become pretty heavy, pretty quickly!)

The Oathing Stone

Oathing Stone Wedding Ceremony

Storytellers and co

We have the Scots to thank for the Oathing Stone tradition, which involves the happy couple placing both of their hands upon a special stone during their exchange of vows.

Taken from an ancient Celtic tradition of ‘setting an oath in stone', the idea is that holding the stone whilst saying vows ‘sets the vows in stone'.

If this is something you'd like to do, you can use any stone, but one collected from a meaningful location for the two of you may make it even more moving so scour your favourite local parks and beaches for a stone that looks suitable.

To prepare the stone, scrub it and treat it with almond oil to give it a nice sheen and, if you fancy really getting into the Celtic mood, have it etched with a Celtic knot, the date of your wedding and your intials...although this is obviously not essential.

As for how to explain to your audience what you're up to, we've put together a few simple words as a suggestion below, but feel free to come up with your own:

Sample Oathing Stone wording

Family and friends, [Bride] and [Groom] will now make their own vows using the Scottish tradition of the ‘Oathing Stone'.

Can I please ask [designated carrier] to come forward with the stone.

For those of you not familiar with this Scottish tradition, it involves the couple either holding or putting their hands together on a stone they have chosen as they say their wedding vows, reflecting the Celtic belief that making an oath near a stone makes it more binding, which may be where we get the saying ‘set in stone'.

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